Parenting

     The purpose of parenting is more than raising one’s children in a healthy and safe home. It's about preparing them to be productive adults that transmit positive cultural values to the community and our society as a whole. Parents must therefore take responsibility for their actions, but it's not a downturn because having a family of your own opens a door for much joy. Children can bring out certain good characteristics that parents frequently did not know were there because never before have they had a chance to do so much for another person. In the end, a healthy family relationship will have a beneficial development not only for the kids but for the parents as well. Unfortunately, parenting is a hard task and brings many varying challenges, like identifying a child’s true needs.

    Every young child has different needs, and even identical twins showcase different behaviors and characteristics. Thus, one of the most effective ways to identify the needs of a child is to observe them closely and analyze their reactions and responses to their environment. Therefore, parental actions must follow after the causes and effects are pinpointed. For example, when kids display a pattern of undue attention-seeking, it is likely a response to a lack of contact and a sense of belonging. Hence, parents will have to provide this more freely and teach their kids how to contribute, so they can feel they are part of the team and feel that they belong.    

    Other instances could also be rebellion, undue risk-taking and avoidance, revenge, and controlling others. These reactions are often caused by a need for a greater sense of protection, a healthy amount of challenges, power, and withdrawal. On that account, parents need to come up with ways that will offer their children a greater sense of authority, like having at least two options from which they will choose, giving them a greater sense of control. As well as teaching them about how to put in work and take appropriate breaks, forgiveness, grit, and assertiveness.

    On the other hand, the current flow of parenting is not as it should be because parents suffer from deficiencies like the lack of vitamin N or the word “no”. John Rosemond, family Psychologist r, in “Is Your Child Getting Enough Vitamin N?” explained that it goes both ways. Parents must say “no” to their children, and the kids, in turn, must understand its meaning to more fully accept it. Providing everything a child desires far too often leads to overindulgence, which is a result of the absence of vitamin N. Consequently, children end up learning they can attain what they desire by whining, demanding, and manipulating. Whereas a healthy amount of being told “no” fixes this issue. Being told “no” teaches them that not everything is the way they wish things to be, it teaches grit as well as the law of work and sacrifice. However, being told “no” is not as effective if the parent's relationship with their children is faulty or not very well established. Thus, working through the parenting pyramid will be needed.

    Correction is the part of parenting found at the peak of the pyramid. Thus, correction is not a big part of parenting, rather it is the smallest one. Underneath correction is the teaching characteristic of parents. This is done by both action and word. Be an example because little children tend to imitate their parents a lot more than listen to what they are told.  

    Then, we have the parent/child relationship. If this aspect of parenting is not good, then saying “no” or teaching and correction will not be very effective. Subsequently, the husband/wife relationship must also be well-structured because kids can feel the energy given off by their parents and when both parents work as one, their work becomes that much more meaningful.

    Lastly, the base of the pyramid is the personal way of being. Parents need to make sure they are having their needs met as well. To be able to take care of another person, one must be able to take good care of themselves. 

    In conclusion, parenting is a wonderful experience of growth and love for both parents and children alike. Although there are many ways families experience challenges, being able to identify what they are and how they came to be will facilitate a parental response that will bring the family together. In the end, firmly building a positive relationship among all members usually by dynamically following the parenting pyramid structure.